Don’t worry, Ginger — no offense taken! I know how urgency can over-ride all other impulses at times, especially given the circumstances you mentioned.
Personally, I’m optimistic that things have changed enough where even if the court revisits Obergfell (which I don’t think is a certainty yet, though I’m not sure which lawsuits are working their way through the courts), we might have federal protections in place by the time it does. But I can understand why people are nervous… nothing is for sure anymore.